Why We Crave Hot-Fudge Sundaes (or Cookies, Chocolate, Cake…)

I recently had the pleasure of participating in a workshop with Geneen Roth, author of many books including the New York Times bestseller Women, Food and God (a book Oprah referred to as "an opportunity to finally end the war with weight and unlock the door to freedom.")
Geneen was among the first to link compulsive eating and chronic dieting with deeply personal and spiritual issues that go far beyond food, weight and body image.
A Hot-Fudge Sundae Life
During a workshop discussion regarding the compulsion to binge on sweets, Geneen said something that really resonated:
"It's not that we want hot-fudge sundaes; we want our lives to be hot-fudge sundaes."
Can you relate?
Like me, don't you crave a sweet, smooth, rich, delicious, pleasure-filled, blissful life?

Not only do we want our life to be a hot-fudge sundae, we want how allowing ourselves to have the hot-fudge sundae (or cookies, chocolate, wine, etc.) makes us feel--special, deserving, loved, accepted, pampered, comforted, serene--even if these feelings are fleeting.
Become A Pleasure Seeker
There is always an exquisitely good reason for what and how we eat. For one, we're wired to desire sweet flavors and driven to seek pleasure and shirk pain. However, as my mentor Marc David says, "It's easy to use sugar as a substitute for a life that's not as sweet as you'd like it to be."
So, rather than relying entirely on sweet treats to make your life more sugary, what else would sweeten your days?

How can you bring more love, pleasure, comfort, connection and fulfillment into your life?

Add these things into your world and your longing for sugar will naturally diminish as your life becomes the hot-fudge sundae you once madly craved.